Writing this, I am thinking about the positives and the negatives I will get for this post. How is love treated in this generation? When I refer to the term love, I assume most of you automatically think of a significant other, because a majority of people forget that loving yourself, is a thing. Committing to someone else means being responsible for their feelings, their thoughts, and being there for them when things get hard. How can anyone even begin to acknowledge someone else & their opinions when they are not knowledgeable about their own? This loss of self-love is what saddens me with today’s generation. I started this post with referring to the positive & negative feedback id receive with this because today's relationships are based on ‘loving’ someone else, while also trying to learn to love yourself. People are not disposable. You can’t just use someone for your own selfish needs to learn how to love your every flaw, and then once you have the power to overcome that, they are of no use. Love is NOT about getting your heart broken, and then swearing that every male/female after that will resemble the same traits as your last. What one person did, does not reflect onto your next. Love is finding someone to love you, just as much as you love yourself. Someone who respects your wants and needs, which can be there for you when the going gets tough, & most importantly someone who will love you past every flaw, every disagreement, and every compromise. It’s okay to love & to love again; not everyone is lucky enough to find that special someone their first try. (Even if it takes you multiple attempts, the fact that you have the power to say this is just not working.. kudos to you!) I was young and immature at one point, we all were. I used to allow society to define what was tolerable in a relationship, I used to let people love me halfway, while I was giving them my all, but that is okay. Everyone has the power to STOP and rethink what they are doing. Everyone grows to learn that enough is enough. Know that when you do find that someone to love you unconditionally, to motivate you when the world may seem like its crashing down on you, for someone to not only act as a love interest but to also act as a shoulder to lean on, that special someone is your someone. (& it is the most significant feeling in this world.) The key to all of this is self-love, and the rest will follow.
.
.
I on the other hand always had an issue with this. I’m such a confident self-loved person on the outside, but I may not ever feel that way on the inside. Opening up about who I am has always been an issue for me, but here I go. I love very easily. This generation is a post-trust era that we are living in. Everyone has a guard up, no one comes across a new friend and trusts them right away. Me? I will put my trust and every positive vibe I have into you, right away, until you break that barrier with me, (and to be honest, sometimes I am so forgiving, I’ll look past whatever it is you’ve done.) Don’t get me wrong, being a forgiving person is not a bad thing, but what you agree to forgive, is what makes a person’s value of self-respect decrease. I learned over the course of a few years that forgiving someone is okay! Forgive them for whatever it is they’ve done, forgive yourself for allowing them to think breaking your trust barrier was acceptable & .. move on.
Learning how to forgive not only someone else but also myself, has helped me strengthen all the flaws that are ‘ugly,’ my love for myself and others, my respect and my dignity.
Love yourself & the rest will follow.
xx
Krystle
“You’ve got to love yourself first. You’ve got to be okay on your own before you can be okay with somebody else.
”